{"id":319,"date":"2013-01-23T22:10:21","date_gmt":"2013-01-23T22:10:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.resourcezoneinternational.com\/?p=319"},"modified":"2019-06-23T05:32:34","modified_gmt":"2019-06-23T05:32:34","slug":"non-verbal-commuication","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.resourcezone.com.au\/?p=319","title":{"rendered":"Non-verbal Commuication"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/blog.resourcezone.com.au\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/10\/NonVerbal_11.jpg\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-320\" title=\"NonVerbal_1\" src=\"https:\/\/blog.resourcezone.com.au\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/10\/NonVerbal_11.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"600\" height=\"400\" srcset=\"https:\/\/blog.resourcezone.com.au\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/10\/NonVerbal_11.jpg 459w, https:\/\/blog.resourcezone.com.au\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/10\/NonVerbal_11-300x200.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 600px) 100vw, 600px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Much of our communication is accomplished through non-verbal behaviour.\u00a0 We express feelings or attitudes by the gestures we utilize, and our determination of the meanings of others\u2019 conversations with us is affected by our intuitive understanding of what their \u201cbody language\u201d is saying.\u00a0 A way of sharpening your perception of a transaction is to include conscious awareness of the other\u2019s gestures<strong>.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>The consistency, or the inconsistency, in the behaviour \u2013 cluster of emotions, attitudes, and gestures &#8211; is a means of revealing the genuineness of a person\u2019s responses. <strong>Gestures: Openness, Defensiveness, Evaluation<\/strong><\/p>\n<p style=\"margin-bottom: -0px;\"><strong>Openness<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Relaxed, open hands in a palms-up gesture (eg. Gesture of innocence or \u201cMy hands are clean\u201d, \u201cI\u2019ve got nothing to hide\u201d posture).<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Hands on hip stance, relaxed but ready for action posture<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Sitting on edge of chair indicates interest, readiness, open to negotiation<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Moving in toward another while speaking confidently indicates an action or readiness attitude<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Proud, erect stance and\/or brisk, confident walk suggest self-confidence, competence, a win\/win attitude towards life.<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Absence of hand-to-head gestures which suggest doubt or uncertainty<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">\u201cSteepling\u201d or joining the fingertips in a church-steeple fashion indicates a sense of assurance, confidence, security<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Other \u201cconfidence\u201d gestures include:\n<ul>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Hands joined behind back and chest thrust forward (eg., Master Sergeant post)<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Elevating oneself (\u201cThe King and I\u201d \u2013 No one must have head higher than the King!)<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Leaning back with hands supporting head \u201cjob accomplished\u201d clucking sound<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"margin-bottom: -0px;\"><strong>Defensiveness<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Arms crossed over chest, or forearms crossed with fingers gripping biceps<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Sitting with one leg over the arm of a chair (eg., \u201cGetting a leg up\u201d) suggests un-cooperativeness, one-upmanship.<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Sitting backwards in a chair, with the chair back serving as a shield, is often a posture of defense.<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Sideways glances and failure to hold one\u2019s gaze suggest suspicion or secretiveness.<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Touching or slightly rubbing one\u2019s nose, eye, or ear with index finger usually notes doubt or refusal.<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Signs of frustration include:\n<ul>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Running one\u2019s hands through one\u2019s hair<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">\u00a0Bringing open palm to back of neck<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Short, sharp breaths or deep inhalation<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Kicking at the ground or some imaginary object<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Tightly clenched hands or hand-wringing<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Nervousness is suggested by:\n<ul>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Throat clearing<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Some types of whistling<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Fidgeting<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Bringing hands to mouth or covering mouth while speaking<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Attempts to maintain self-control or hold oneself in check are indicated by:\n<ul>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Locked ankles<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Clenched hands<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Holding one arm in the upper hand behind one\u2019s back<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Restraining an arm, gripping a wrist, gripping arms of a chair<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"margin-bottom: -0px;\"><strong>Evaluation<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Hand\u2013to-cheek gestures, or chin in palm with index finger extended along check (\u201cThe Thinker\u201d \u2013 Rodin) suggests thoughtfulness<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Cocked or tilted head indicates interest<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Chin or beard stroking is a sign of contemplation<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Peering over the top of one\u2019s glasses (eg. \u201cLooking down one\u2019s nose at\u2026\u201d) is usually considered an evaluative or judgmental gesture.<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Gestures with glasses can suggest several things:\n<ul>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Removing glasses and carefully wiping the lenses is a method of stalling for time to think, or of procrastinating.<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Pacing with glasses in hand or mouth is a decision-making ritual that should not be interrupted.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Pinching the bridge of the nose suggests thoughtfulness and concern<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Boredom is suggested by:\n<ul>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Tapping feet or drumming fingers on a table<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Head in hand with drooping eyes<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Blank stare<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Doodling<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\">Acceptance of another is indicated by touching or decreasing the bodily distance between individuals.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>The material adapted from \u201cHow to Read a Person Like a Book\u201d\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Gerald Nurenberg and Henry Calero<strong><br \/>\n<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft wp-image-2660 size-thumbnail\" src=\"https:\/\/blog.resourcezone.com.au\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/Colin-1-150x150.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" \/><\/p>\n<p>\u00a9 Colin Noyes. Colin is the Director of ResourceZone International. He has thirty years of ministry experience as a pastor, college lecturer and consultant\/coach to consultants, denominational leaders and local church pastors. He can be reached at <a href=\"mailto:info@resourcezoneinternational.com\">info@resourcezoneinternational.com<\/a><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<br \/>\n&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h4><\/h4>\n<h4><strong>Related Resources<\/strong><\/h4>\n<ul class=\"list list0\">\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\"><a title=\"Communication Effectiveness Profile (Ministry Specific Resource PDF)\" href=\"http:\/\/www.resourcezone.com.au\/communication-effectiveness-proflie-ministry-specific-resource-pdf\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Communication Effectiveness Profile (Ministry Specific Resource PDF)<\/a><\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.resourcezone.com.au\/communication-coaching-guide-storyboard-ministry-specific-resource-pdf\">Effective Communication: Coaching Storyboard Coaching Guide (Ministry Specific Resource PDF)<\/a><\/li>\n<li style=\"color: black; font-size: 15px;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.resourcezone.com.au\/communication-storyboard-ministry-specific-resource-pdf\">Effective Communication: Coaching Storyboard (Ministry Specific Resource PDF)<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Much of our communication is accomplished through non-verbal behaviour.\u00a0 We express feelings or attitudes by the gestures we utilize, and our determination of the meanings of others\u2019 conversations with us is affected by our intuitive understanding of what their \u201cbody language\u201d is saying.\u00a0 A way of sharpening your perception of a transaction is to include&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":428,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-319","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-communication"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.resourcezone.com.au\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/319","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.resourcezone.com.au\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.resourcezone.com.au\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.resourcezone.com.au\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.resourcezone.com.au\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=319"}],"version-history":[{"count":17,"href":"https:\/\/blog.resourcezone.com.au\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/319\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2741,"href":"https:\/\/blog.resourcezone.com.au\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/319\/revisions\/2741"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.resourcezone.com.au\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/428"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.resourcezone.com.au\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=319"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.resourcezone.com.au\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=319"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.resourcezone.com.au\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=319"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}