{"id":4361,"date":"2020-03-09T15:19:51","date_gmt":"2020-03-09T05:19:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.resourcezone.com.au\/?p=4361"},"modified":"2020-03-09T15:33:23","modified_gmt":"2020-03-09T05:33:23","slug":"are-your-goals-damaging-your-well-being","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.resourcezone.com.au\/?p=4361","title":{"rendered":"Are your goals damaging your well-being?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-4363 alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/blog.resourcezone.com.au\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Are-your-goals-damaging-your-wellbeing.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"430\" height=\"324\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 18px;\">\u201cWhen your sense of self and happiness comes from within and isn&#8217;t a roller coaster ride dependent on others or circumstances, you approach life differently.\u201d &#8211; Kamal Ravikant<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 18px;\">What are your goals for this year? That was the question that was asked in a team meeting I was asked to be a part of. As I listened to each member explain their goal I wondered if the goals were Intrinsic or Extrinsic.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 18px;\">Intrinsic comes from your inner self and is something that is deeply fulfilling for you as a person.\u00a0 Extrinsic is something that comes from the outside, something that you should do in order to be able to achieve something or get something. <\/span><span style=\"font-size: 18px;\">I\u2019d like to look at the way that Intrinsic and Extrinsic goals can have an effect on your well-being.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 18px;\"><strong>Intrinsic<\/strong> motivation and intrinsic goals help you with your personal growth.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 18px;\">They are also linked to emotional intimacy of some sort. Better relatedness. Better relationships.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 18px;\">They also include some sort of community contribution. Be that a community of your personal life or your work life.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 18px;\"><strong>Extrinsic<\/strong> motivation and goals are more about fame or acceptance (I need people to like me).<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 18px;\">They come from \u201clook at me\u201d, \u201clook how great I am\u201d or \u201clook at how attractive I am\u201d.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 18px;\">Or financial success so you can have a bunch of stuffs, so you can own more material things.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-4371 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/blog.resourcezone.com.au\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Are-your-goals-damaging-your-well-being-1-1.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"754\" height=\"612\" srcset=\"https:\/\/blog.resourcezone.com.au\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Are-your-goals-damaging-your-well-being-1-1.png 754w, https:\/\/blog.resourcezone.com.au\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Are-your-goals-damaging-your-well-being-1-1-300x244.png 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 754px) 100vw, 754px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 18px;\">Scientific studies show that people who have intrinsic motivation tend to keep their motivation over time, they are more durable because they are driven by dopamine which helps us get up and go, helps us be curious and open to new things.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 18px;\">Extrinsic is more the outer motivation of a \u2018should\u2019. It\u2019s something you \u2018ought\u2019 to do \u2018must\u2019 do, \u2018should\u2019 do and it actually fluctuates in a way, that when you achieve your goal, it can drop your motivation completely so your motivation just disappears.\u00a0 It\u2019s driven by adrenaline.\u00a0 It\u2019s like a fear of not achieving so the best you\u2019re going to get if you achieve your goal is feeling a sense of relief rather than feeling necessarily a sense of achievement.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 18px;\">In all the studies that have been done, intrinsic is associated with increased well-being where extrinsic is associated with decreased well-being.\u00a0 My advice to the team was to think very carefully especially over the next few months and maybe even the next twelve months:\u00a0 \u2018What are you driven by?\u2019 \u2018Are your goals Intrinsic or Extrinsic?\u2019.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cWhen your sense of self and happiness comes from within and isn&#8217;t a roller coaster ride dependent on others or circumstances, you approach life differently.\u201d &#8211; Kamal Ravikant What are your goals for this year? 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